Time to Make Your List

I am someone that, on any given day, has a lot going on at one time. I have finally learned that it is not the best way to proceed. The consequence to being overly committed and passionate about multiple endeavors is often that the things your true, authentic self wants to accomplish or get out of life, become unattainable and go unfulfilled.

Frustrated and stuck, I vented to a friend about not seeing the results I wanted in my personal, romantic, and professional life. The first thing he suggested was to get a journal. Now, I have journals all over the place full of thoughts, feelings, business ideas, fragments of books, etc. Never had I dedicated a journal to designing the life I wanted. Now, I was giving myself permission to think about just me.

My friend suggested developing a 50×50 list. This would be a list of 50 things I wanted to do for me by the time I was 50 years old. I thought, ‘that’s no problem’ and began jotting down things off the top of my head. Take my daughter here. Buy my daughter this. Go on vacation with my daughter to… “STOP,” he yelled. “This cannot involve anyone else. Everything is solely focused on you.” Huh? That was a completely foreign concept to me and made my task ten times harder. As a single parent, my daughter is my life. My careers in education and entertainment have always been about helping others succeed or keeping them inspired. How in the world do I come up with 50 things completely dedicated to me, my desires, my aspirations, and my goals?

I struggled and to this day have only a third of my list complete. “It’s ok,” he later assured me. “It takes times.” He further instructed me that as things come up, put it on the list. This will show that I am opening myself to the experience and allowing the law of attraction to do its thing. As opportunities present themselves, I must take advantage of them. Go on that trip. Visit that place. Meet that person. Train myself to think of myself in addition to others before time, desire, and ability get away from me. I suggest you develop your own list. Pick the next decade you face and set that as the number of things you want to experience or accomplish before that age. If something goes undone, put it on the list for the next decade and continue to press. Its not a Bucket List or a Before I Die List. It is a way to remind yourself that you, too, are important. Get busy living your life…now.

The Health Benefits of Spirulina

The health benefits of Spirulina are so numerous for the body that it should become a staple in everyone’s diet for overall health. In this article I will familiarize you with just some of the benefits of this superfood.

Spirulina is actually a cyanobacteria. Before you get concerned, it’s not one of the bacteria that gets you sick, but it is classified as bacteria because the genetic material is not organized in a membrane-bound nucleus. Unlike other bacteria, they have chlorophyll and use the sun as an energy source, in the way plants and algae do.

Spirulina is one of the most nutritious and concentrated food sources on the planet. On average, meat holds only 27 percent protein, but spirulina is consistently measured at 65 percent protein, at least. This is a great benefit for those who are vegetarian or vegan, and are looking for protein rich foods.

Spirulina is also rich in chlorophyll, which is proven to be another superfood that delivers many health benefits. This food is also a great source of anti-inflammatories, important for anyone with health conditions such as arthritis, fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis, lupus, etc.

It is even being used to control blood pressure and cholesterol, as well as helping to aid in the treatment for HIV-positive patients. While it does not cure HIV, it boosts the immune system, which is a weakness for HIV-positive people.

Many also use spirulina for its fat-burning properties. During workouts, spirulina acts as a fat burner and can aid in weight loss and toning of the body.

For anyone with a compromised immune system, or for that extra boost during cold and flu season, this is definitely needed!

During pregnancy is another time when the immune system drops and spirulina can be extremely beneficial. It is a mineral that’s safe for ingestion during pregnancy, and can actually help the growing baby. It also boosts the iron levels, and does not cause constipation like iron tablets often do.

Menstruating women can also benefit from this iron-rich super food if they struggle with anemia. It is also safe for children, and measures high rates of natural calcium, which is great for children’s growing bodies, as well as adult bodies.

The elderly population finds health benefits from this super food, as well. It helps the bones stay strong and not break or fracture as they reach the common onset age of osteoporosis.

A very important use of spirulina is to eradicate heavy metal toxins from their bodies. Spirulina binds to these heavy metals, and pushes them from the body. This is also very good for cancer patients, or those who have undergone chemotherapy and radiation treatments. Spirulina can help restore those damaged cells from the treatment.

For the many benefits spirulina is shown to have, it should become part of everyone’s daily regimen. While it may have an unpleasant smell to it, there really is not much of a taste. It blends well with smoothies and can even be sprinkled into food. So pick up some spirulina today and enjoy!

Chlorella: What You Don’t Know Could Save Your Life

Chlorella seems to be the new health craze nowadays. Is all of the buzz about this simple algae plant worth it? Indeed it is!

Chlorella is held in high regard for its health benefits. It is a potent source for many nutrients such as B12, commonly found in proteins. It also contains B1, B2, folic acid, and vitamins C, A, and K.

Chlorella also has significant antioxidant properties and helps to flush toxins from the body. It provides the body a natural energy boost in lieu of coffee, energy drinks, etc.

Often referred to as nature’s multivitamin because it is packed with so many nutrients, chlorella also contains other important minerals such as potassium, iron, calcium and magnesium. The plant is an amazing detoxifier, as it binds with toxins, chemicals and heavy metals, and moves them out of the body rapidly.

The plant has been studied for its effectiveness in many diseases and conditions such as cancer, diabetes, fibromyalgia, heart disease, female reproductive issues, digestive issues and so much more. It is also highly touted as a weight loss supplement. It should definitely be a staple in everyone’s diet for the significant health benefits.

Due to the fact that this plant has so many powerful properties, a question arises: how do we take it in order to fully capitalize on its benefits? Well, I’m glad you asked! First, the best type of chlorella to find is one that says “broken cell wall” chlorella. This is because the tough outer cell also protects this algae, and is basically indigestible to us. Our internal enzymes are not strong enough to digest this powerful plant without the cell wall being broken for us.

The other thing to consider is the source of your chlorella. As I mentioned earlier, this plant is an algae, and therefore grows in water. If the water source is polluted, the algae will draw in the toxins, as well.

Chlorella is widely used in Asian countries and has been for some time. So if your chlorella comes from anywhere near a nuclear plant leak, or anywhere else that is not a freshwater source, you will be introducing chemicals to your body while trying to rid it of chemicals. Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?

Women who develop anemia through loss of blood and iron during menstruation can truly benefit from this plant, as its levels of iron are very high. This could pose a problem if you have a condition where your body has too much iron already, so be cautious.

Chlorella is also known to be an immune system booster, as it kills off parasites, bacteria and viruses that try to take host in the body and cause illness and disease. It also combats cancer cells by protecting the healthy cells from free radicals in the body which can cause cells to mutate and turn cancerous.

Many people add this plant powder to their smoothies to get the health benefits from it. It is not recommended as a daily supplement; however, it can be taken in smoothies up to three times a week. As always, rotate the greens you add to your smoothies. Everything in moderation.

Chlorella is an amazing plant that deserves of all of the rave reviews it gets. As with everything else, just take some simple precautions, and know the source of your chlorella before you begin taking it. Enjoy the health benefits of this green algae.

Body Image: What Are We Teaching Our Daughters?

Growing up, I was always the heaviest out of my sisters.  Now when I say that, it would imply that I was a fat girl right? WRONG! They were all very lean, and I’m built more curvy.  So to them it was abnormal.

Isn’t that the same as we see in Hollywood though? They glamorize women that have their collarbones and hip bones protruding through their skin, and say it’s beautiful.  When a curvy girl steps up, they call her fat.  Look at Michelle Obama!  As fit as she is, she’s been accused of being fat or overweight. *scratches head, blank stare*

This is the twisted image our daughters, and yes, even our sons are exposed to on a daily basis.  In a society where sex sells, the worth of a woman is often reliant on her body.

So how do we change this?  By teaching our daughters that they are beautiful.  We must teach them that no matter how they’re shaped, lean or thick, how to see the beauty in themselves.  That may be a difficult thing to do when society may say otherwise.  It’s not impossible!

My daughter is built just like me when it comes to being curvy and muscular.  She has said on occasion that she feels like she’s fat.  She compares herself to her brother who is long and lean.  What worked for us?

I had to show my daughter images of beautiful women who are curvy like her.  And who are heavier than what Hollywood would call beautiful.  Her being able to see these women as beautiful has helped to shift her focus from her feeling fat, to her understanding that she is beautiful no matter what size she is.  Healthy is beautiful!

That’s what worked to help her understand that she is size beautiful whether it be a 2 or a 10.  Show your daughters images of women that are not by Hollywood’s definition, beautiful.  Show your daughter that she’s beautiful, period!  Teach her that her confidence will exude her beauty…no matter what size she is.

Trust: Is Your Relationship Fractured?

We hear all the time about relationships where one partner trusted the other too much, and in the end they ended up in a bad way.  Unfortunately that seems to be the same old song, time and time again.  We don’t get to hear the stories about the couple being able to trust each other with their lives, their finances, with their hearts.

Unfortunately for many of us, our pasts teach us how to trust…or teach us not to trust.  What we don’t realize is that our children see those trust issues so much more clearly than we can, and they begin to emulate them.  For every parent, they want their children to be better than them.  As moms, we are always so focused on taking care of everyone else that we forget to nurse our own wounds.

So where do we turn when our trust issues begin to manifest their ugly heads?  How do we learn to let go of the hurt and pain, and learn to trust again?  Simply put, we just have to do it.

Due to my own past experiences, even though I was married, and truly loved my husband, I didn’t trust him with my heart.  One day during a “heated debate”, he accused me of not trusting him. I told him he was wrong, I trusted him.  He replied with “You don’t trust me with your heart!”

Now I had two choices at that point.  Keep going the way we were going, which resulted in a breakdown of our relationship, or throw caution to the wind, and allow him behind that brick wall I had built to protect myself.  I chose the latter, and we have been all the better for it.

Yes, we will get hurt in any relationship, whether it be romantic or friendship.  However, the intent behind the hurt is what makes the difference.  Now someone else may have a different story, but as for me, I took the chance and never looked back.

What choice will you make?

Quality Time: How Do I Find More Of It?

As moms, we always try and do the best we can for our children. Often we find ourselves in positions where we look back at a situation and feel like we could have handled it differently. Sometimes it may seem that everyone else claims to have the answers to parenthood and we’re still searching for our answers. One thing I have learned from being a parent is that children will follow the example that we set for them to follow. As a mom of two young children, it is not always easy to set the best example for them. Sometimes an impulsive decision can jeopardize what we have taught them. Sometimes a poor choice can jeopardize what we have taught them also. As a full-time working mom, student, wife, mother of two young children, and business owner, my life can be extremely busy. Making time for my family can be a challenge sometimes. It almost seems impossible to juggle all of those tasks at once.

Here are some tips I have learned that help in carving out time to spend with my family:
1) Always make time for a movie night. Whether you are tight on the budget, or only have an hour or two to spare, this is a great option to carve out some quality family time. This past New Years, I stayed home spending time with my family. For just one night it seemed as if everything was perfect. We made hot chocolate and had popcorn. We laid blankets on the floor, and watched movies as a family. Now I thought the kids would be bored, and want a little bit more action. It turned out that they said it was their best New Years yet. So I started to think, why did something so simple mean so much for them? Well the answer is simple, it turns out that children actually value quality family time more than we realize. As we get older we lose sight of what’s genuinely important with all of the demands that the world puts on us. So for that one night, they felt like they were the focus of our attention, and not bills, or the day’s demands. It seems this means more to them than we truly adult.

2)Set up one game night per month at least. Game nights are not only quality family time, but they also teach children how to win and lose gracefully. These are key teaching areas when it comes to putting our children in anything competitive, whether it be sports or academics. Teaching our children how to lose gracefully is just as important as teaching them how to win gracefully. Just as no one wants to play with a sore loser, no one wants to play with a child who wins, but rubs it in everyone’s face. Being able to teach our children at home about humility is extremely important as they grow older and enter into society. So we not only benefit from having that quality time, but we also benefit from being able to teach our children important lessons. This is also a time where we can teach our children how to play games honestly and not having to cheat to win. It reinforces the integrity we try to teach our children.

3)Block one day of your schedule out of the month to just spend time together. It can be so easy for our calendars to fill up, that we need to remind ourselves to block off one day for our family. We should have nothing planned for that day that does not involve our family. Whether it be an activity that the family has been wanting to take on, or a lazy day at home. Open that time up to communicate and sit and chat with your children. No matter how young you may be surprised at the level of understanding young children have. You may also be surprised at the questions they may come up with. I’ve been thrown off quite a few times with questions I was unprepared for. The bottom line is they remember days like this as they get older. As they grow, if you’ve invested the time for them when they were young, they will learn to invest the time in you as they grow older. Time flies by so much faster than we realize. The time we spend with our children today, will help shape their tomorrows.