Within the last few weeks we have witnessed the hacking, and the ultimate crippling of the website Ashley Madison. If you haven’t heard, Ashley Madison is a website where married people go to find other married people to have affairs with. They can even pay an extra fee to ensure they don’t get caught hooking up with others. Hackers, who are now suspected to be a competitor site, have hacked into the site and at first they only threatened to release the information if the site wasn’t taken down. Those in charge of the website tried to call the hackers’ bluff, and didn’t take it down. A list was released with the names and personal information of about 37 million users, new and old.
Among those users whose information was released were some very notable names including Josh Duggar, many Pentagon employees, and other familiar names. Since then, there have been suicides that have reportedly been a direct consequence of the hack. There’s no telling how many homes have been destroyed.
The question then comes in, who destroyed these families, the hackers or the husbands?
A wife asked for advice when she found her husband’s name on the Ashley Madison list. She used a password he commonly uses and was able to get into the account. Listed in his interests for women were philosophy and opera. He also specified that he wanted a disease free woman. While the wife stated his account looked like there was no activity, she still asked him about it. His response was going off on her, and telling her she was spying on him. He said he didn’t know anything about the account, but the wife is convinced it was his. What would you do in that situation?
Situation #2: The husband learned his information was exposed during the Ashley Madison leak. He’s been married for 20 years, and doesn’t want his wife to find out he was on the site searching. While he never acted out any fantasies, he is concerned that his wife will get wind of his information on there from one of her friends. Should he come clean and risk what they have? Or should he not say anything and hope she never finds out?
What would you do in these situations?