It doesn’t matter how often you have sex just as long as the quality of sex is sufficient. The only way to determine if the quality of the intimacy is achieved is if the two of you enthusiastically agree when you come together. Your husband does not want to lay on top of a dead body. I know for me there are times when I do not feel up to it. And, I’m human. Of course there are times when the last thing I want to do is jump in the bed and perform at a high level. I recognize that my life is not my own and I gave myself to God-presenting my body as a living sacrifice as a reasonable act of worship. When properly discerned, sex with my husband is not a job, it is a pleasure.
If you have to take a few minutes to clear your mind and freshen up before coming to bed, then do what you have to do. Just be sure that when you say yes, you mean it. Be sure that you are a willing participant in the sexual encounter. I know some of you may think that if you do this he will want it all the time and when is enough -enough. Well, I believe that when the experience is is full and satisfying, he may not need it as much as he does when you give a half-hearted effort. If you keep giving him snack experiences instead of fulfilling meals then I can see why he’s still hungry. So I ask you are you feeling frisky or no?