You start dating, and sparks fly. Time passes, and you get married. then the kids come. Before you know it, things have become dull and mundane. All of your lives revolve around schedules and school work. You begin to wonder, what happened to the sparks?
The beginning of relationships are always fun, and often feel like you’re caught up in a whirlwind…and you love it! Then the fire fades, and life continues. You find yourself wondering where the spark from the beginning of the relationship went? Well, you can revive it.
Dating in a marriage, especially with kids, is just as important as it was when you were getting to know each other in the beginning. There are couples I know that never go on dates together. I don’t understand how they could continue in a healthy relationship without ever going out and spending that one on one time with each other outside of the home. Now I know there are some circumstances that dictate things be done that way, but those are few and far between.
I’ve been with my husband for ten years now, and I have learned to appreciate our one on one time together, even if we’re not actually talking to each other. We can go see a movie together, and enjoy just being grown ups. There are no interruptions to ask for juice, or water. No one saying “stop looking at me! Moooooommmm, s/he is looking at me!”
Time will pass, and the children will grow up. When that time comes, they will continue on with their own lives. Believe it or not, you and your husband will change as well. If you don’t change and grow together, when the kids leave, you’re faced with two strangers living together in the same house that know who they fell in love with, but don’t know who they’re with now.
That’s a pretty sad situation to see people together for decades, and then when they’re faced with the reality of the relationship, they separate. It’s because they didn’t take the time to spend that one on one time together, learning, and growing. I can tell you right now, my husband is not the same man that I married. As well as I’m not the same woman he married.
Changes WILL happen. It takes work to stay in sync with each other when you both are ever evolving. Date nights allow you the opportunity to have uninterrupted time with your husband, and helps with the intimacy factor. Time is one way to show you love and care for someone, and is probably one of the most important. So don’t sacrifice that date night. Keep the fire burning!