So I turned 34 a couple of days ago. In my 34 years, I have come to learn some things. While I’m still learning and changing every day, I just wanted to share some of the things I have learned:
1) I have allowed too many people to have too much say in MY life. That’s over. The consequences, whether they be good or bad, for every choice I make are mine. So in that regard, allowing anyone other than myself to make those decisions would not make much sense. Often we want to please the people in our lives and want to feel validated, so we allow them the space in our life to make those decisions for us, or to influence those decisions.
2) I have learned to stop chasing people. Those who want to be active in my life will make the effort. Those who don’t, I have let go of. I have learned that this also must apply to family too. There will be people who no matter what, will never put in the amount of effort it takes to nourish and maintain a relationship with you. This will often leave you feeling unfulfilled, or like you’re spending more energy pouring into the relationship and getting nothing back. You’re worth so much more. You’re worth having a friendship or relationship where they pour into you just as much as you pour into them. That’s how the relationship will grow.
3) I am still changing and growing. If you hold me to who I used to be, that says more about you than it does me. We all make poor choices, we all make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Allow them the space and the opportunity to grow and learn from those mistakes. Often mistakes and poor choices are made because of a lack of maturity, or an issue in a certain area. Sort of a character flaw. It can be rectified. Most people don’t have malicious intent when they make poor choices. Forgive them. Forgive yourself.
4) I spend most of my time pouring into others, and have not spent enough time allowing myself to be poured into. I will invest more into myself from now on. As women, and especially moms, this is where many of us go wrong. Cardiac disease is still the number 1 silent killer of women. We literally work ourselves to death. Please know that you’re no good to anyone dead, or seriously sick. Everyone around you would prefer to have you healthy and whole. Take some time for yourself to meet your needs. You’re just as important as everyone else.
5) I am on the verge on something really big! Stay tuned!! Sexy Moms Rock has something in store for you! We’re excited!!
Now you’ve read some of the life lessons I’ve learned. I’d love to hear what you can add on to that.
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